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Take a look at our new and improved First Time? topic: HERE



So peeps, I don't doubt there are probably countless of these threads about with advice on losing your virginity and first time.

Guessing you're pretty scared? well that's natural.


The way I see things is that nobody wants to lose their virginity to a randomer at a party so girls, ya see that hot guy with the nice eyes offering you drink after drink? think about it.
It's the same for boys, you may think losing your virginity is something to brag about or makes you cool.

You're wrong, people who do it drunk and with someone they've known 5 minutes - personally very little respect for.

You're best bet is to just wait it out, there's nothing wrong with being 18 and still a virgin, it either happens or it doesn't. You would be a lot happier to do it with a partner then with just anyone.

If you're in a relationship, <b>Don't</b> rush into things, speak to your partner and see how they feel about everything, boys <b>NEVER</b> pressure a girl into doing anything they are not comfortable with. Sex isn't everything in a relationship and yeah sure it's fun but don't be naive and think because you're in a relationship you're expected to have sex. Most successful couples were those who waited until they were both ready.

<b>DON'T</b> be afraid to ask your partner what they like, as it's your first time no one is expecting you to be great at it, experiment with eachother and try to make it as enjoyable for the both of you, you will have forever to practice!!

If you're not in a relationship all hope is not lost, I know plenty of people who have slept with very close friends as a method of losing their virginity. By close friend I mean a very close friend not just a guy you've known for a couple of days and is hot. If you are comfortable with this person this can work out GREAT as they will be able to help you out and generally teach you the tricks of the trade, you don't have to go into a relationship and there aren't any commitments. I know plenty of people for whom this is a case and it worked out well due to the fact they were relaxed with that person. - I'm not saying go up to your friend and ask them if they want to have sex, choose someone you trust and just speak to them about it. Don't expect them all to say yes.

Now girls, I know a lot of you are probably very insecure (Most girls are...) so take it from me. <b>YOU ARE ALL NORMAL</b> Don't compare yourself to all these porn stars and models you see on the TV because 99.9% of them are fake, every girl is different in size and body type. Breasts are naturally not symetrical so if you're worried about that don't be. Get used to your bodily functions and experiment with yourself so you are comfortable with your body. Have confidence in yourself (IT SHOWS).

Boys this goes for you too!!, now I guess i've got to cover this so grit your teeth and get on with it. Penis - yeah you all have one get over it.
Don't be scared!, Most of you are probably self conciouss about penis size, you really shouldn't be. The average size is 5.7 inches so you see all those 10 inch talents on your porn videos? Yeah ignore them. I know most guys aren't comfortable talking about this kind of thing but jesus chill out. A girl is NOT going to laugh at you or turn you down, and if they do? then frankly they're not worth it. It's the same as with the girls everyone is different and confidence is a huge factor, if you are confident and ready then it really doesn't matter.

You also want to stay hygenic people so don't forget to wash!!!!!. No one likes dirty smelly things so when washing make sure you keep your privates clean!, lads this means under the foreskin of the penis too. You don't want smegma - that's just a bit messy.
Cleaning is very important as it helps keep away nasty infections which no one wants.

<b> Just remember people ENJOY IT. If sex is a chore then don't do it. simple.</b>

If you have any questions of problems then feel free to post here or if you have any personal issues you can always message me.

Ciao for now

Kane x
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I'd sticky it. But this isn't my forum so, I'll ask Objet when she gets on.

But don't rush into the first time thinking it'll be great. Cuz' to be honest. It's really awkward and slow.
Just take it step by step. Remember to use protection, and try to calm yourself, your partner and both have a good experiance.

But remember, giving is so much better than recieving.
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Also, I agree with Kane. Most guys in porn aren't natural either. So don't compaire your own size to them.
The average size, actually is 6 inches, for White males atleast.

But size don't mean shit if you don't know how to use it.
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I had my first time with a randomer..sort of. I really don't mind. It was awkward and confusing, and well I sucked. I'm actually glad that I did it then had more experience, so when I did it with someone I love, I wasn't utter shit. And I looked cool cool.gif
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QUOTE (Erin the Exuberant @ Apr 7 2009, 01:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I had my first time with a randomer..sort of. I really don't mind. It was awkward and confusing, and well I sucked. I'm actually glad that I did it then had more experience, so when I did it with someone I love, I wasn't utter shit. And I looked cool cool.gif


haha you were teribble wernt you happy.gif

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Everyone's first time sucks, Erin.
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I know.
I was just saying.
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Honestly, no one should expect any amazing sex until at least their third or fourth time.
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NQ: I know 6 inch is what standardly is seen as the average but it's actually not :]
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my first time was not the best also. i didnt even know the girl that well we met at a party and i was drinking and so was the other girl so we just talked and shit. so by time we were done talking i was just wasted so we made out a bit then one thing lead to another. it was just awkward
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QUOTE (brunettesrule1000 @ Apr 7 2009, 02:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Mine didn't.

First time will not be the best sex of your life by any means, but it's memorable because of it's awkward tentativeness of not REALLY knowing what you're doing. Which is why it's important to be comfortable and all that.

Pssh. You aint experienced shit yet babe tongue.gif

And Kane, 6 inch is what I heard.
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Google it.


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I agree with you, babe.

Tongue + fingers ftw.
penis? pshhh. not needed.
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That 0.3 is all us men have left to stand on..

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QUOTE (brunettesrule1000 @ Apr 7 2009, 02:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Don't I know it..... /sigh.
What is with people and calling me babe lately? Am I some sort of........ person that's begging to be babe-named? O.o

And if every guy, or even one guy, could learn ONE thing from this thread.
Let it be:

Foreplay ftw. (especially for the first time, it means the likelihood of it hurting is a lot less)
Lots and lots and lots. And when you think you've done enough, do another half hour more.
And -
Tongue > Penis = Fingers
^ Learn the order plz

What? I'll backhand those wannabes. I'm the only real one who can call you babe tongue.gif

Also, yeah. Foreplay is awesome. I might make another thread "Women and Sex For Dummies".
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QUOTE (brunettesrule1000 @ Apr 7 2009, 03:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Can you backhand me after? tongue.gif

And lol, do it. (is it now called me?)
Sorry. I can't stop. Someone make me stop ohmy.gif

Lol seriously it would help. Everyone is writing help guides atm huh laugh.gif

Alright.

I guess I'll write one up. Nothing professional, just a quick informational kit for guys.
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2nd sticky in a week, i'm on form.
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Fuck it. I'll post that thingie in here. Better than Hijacking a thread.

it's really long. BUT BEAR WITH ME.

So guys, feel like getting lucky, but you've never had sex before? Well don't you worry! I'm here...Fuck this.
Fucking eighties intros.

Alright so guys. Be a gentleman about it. Don't go up and say OMG SECKZ NOW OR I DUMP K?
If you want sex, and she doesn't. Then don't force or pressure her, or dump her. Just stay in a loving relationship.
Sex will come in time and trust.

But say you're already going to have sex, and you're nerveous? Everybody is. Just remember to use protection, pill, condom or whatever. And if you're a teen, then worrying about STDs won't be a huge problem. Because most people don't have that in their teens. (If they did, they would tell you I would guess).

And sex isn't some kind of hard thing, Just go with the flow and what feels right, and try to have fun.
But I do feel that her pleasure is the first and foremost goal in sex. Because if you give your partner great sex, you'll get it in return. Not only is it more physically great, but emotionally and mentally it strengthens the relationship and everybody is happy.

But down to business. I suggest staring off with Foreplay. It isn't too popular among men to have foreplay. But it's really romantic and gets people in the mood if you do it. Foreplay can be various things, cuddling, kissing, touching and grabbing, etc.

And if you don't know what the Clit is. Well learn what it is and how to stimulate it. The clit is a little fleshy organ at the top of the vagina. Underneath a part of skin called "The Hood". If rubbed, sucked, or licked. It can give a woman an intense and multiple orgasms alone. So that and using your fingers inside of her? Golden right there.

And other than that. I can't say a whole lot, I think those two things are the most important. The rest is Trial and Error and going with what feels right and the flow.

SO remember, girls aren't just toys for sex. Don't treat them like they are. Be a gentleman and understanding with her.

ALSO just something. Shave down there, you might be nerveous about shaving, it's a hassle yes. But your partner will be thankful for it. Pubic hair is gross and it makes so life so much easier if it's not there.
And trust me, most girls love a guy who shaves or trims.

How to shave? If it's your first time, Trim the hair down to a smaller size, get some shaving cream or lather apply it. then take a shaving razor (Brand doesn't matter) and start to shave off the hair. I reccommend not going over the same place twice without cream on. And once you do get it all shaved, you'll notice that you have annoying stubble. This can be taken care of by shaving upward, or against the brush. I suggest shaving daily. But if you want the really smooth feeling, then Every 2 or more days. As for treating it. Lotion...and if you feel the need to. Aftershave (BUT IT BURNS LIKE A BITCH). Make sure you're not allergic to the Aftershave.

Pros
Makes you look bigger
Alot smoother
Definetly more appealing
Girls just love it shaved.

Cons
Razor Burn (If not done right.)
Ingrown Hair
Cuts (But I think you get cuts no matter who you are.)
Razor Bumps (Little red bumps)
Itching, burning (Can be cured by lotion or some Anti-Jock Itch Spray)

I hope this shit helped.
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I'm still happy that I got you to google "penis size". I hope someone checks your history.

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QUOTE (The Damned @ Apr 7 2009, 06:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm still happy that I got you to google "penis size". I hope someone checks your history.

Actually. I didn't Google.

Manswers ftw!
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